Bad Food As The Commonest Cause For Marital Incompatibility
( Originally Published 1934 )
Many a quarreling couple is unaware that the explanation for their seeming uncongeniality is not due so much to mental or spiritual incompatibility as much as to a gnawing, disease breeding, nerve racking common foundation of disease with which either one or both are affected. This common foundation of disease is constantly caused to flare up and be aggravated by the unwise and injudicious meals which the really loving wife unwittingly prepares. The constant or even frequent serving of meals which disagree, causing irritability of the disposition, disturbed sleep, or even sleeplessness and numerous other ill effects, is the cause of more unhappiness in the home than is generally recognized.
The real explanation for many a divorce will be found in the constant eating of food which in effect is the equivalent of a mild poison or even severe poison, acting detrimentally chiefly on the common foundation of disease and setting up a more or less continuous feeling of bodily ill-being.
This system maintains that any two really normal people who have a distinct and true regard for each other, should be compatible; or rather, that any two such people who are enjoying continuous, real good health, allowing for only slight temporary remissions which are quickly correctable, should be compatible. The commonest factor for inducing a general feeling of ill-being and the resultant incompatibility is the ingestion of bad food. Such food stimulates the person's common foundation of disease which in turn arouses unsociable tendencies, irritability, nervousness, aches and pains, etc. The close observance of the dietary rules of common foundationing, and if necessary, the use of some of the simpler means of common foundationing, will in most instances quickly control and remove these sources of marital and familial disturbances.
The healthier the individual, the more desirable he is socially. Irritability, crankiness, habitual complaining, etc., which this system prove conclusively are due in most instances to the poor quality of food arousing the person's common foundation of disease, are not conducive to happiness. A quarrelsome, unhappy family with ailing, sick members, is not a happy home. This unsatisfactory and unhappy state of affairs is due to the cruel effects of bad food, unknowingly to most members of the family. When real, incapacitating sicknesses set in, the situation in the home becomes still more unbearable.
The common experience of intense, often uncontrollable feeling of restlessness, is invariably due to poor food, but mostly so in people who have a decided common foundation of disease. This spirit of restlessness is too often the excuse for aimless wanderings and ruptures of the home ties. A false feeling of unhappiness only too often possesses members of the home. This is a pseudo-unhappiness and i* reality is due to the constant eating of bad food and its injurious effect on the common foundation of good health which becomes an active common foundation of disease. It is readily evident how easily such pseudo-unhappiness can be cured merely by correcting the diet and if necessary, by using some of the simple means of common foundationing. In the final analysis, disagreeableness is principally given vent to in two forms. The first is the more or less constant feeling of pseudo-unhappiness and the second is the frequent sensation of intense restlessness which possess these quarreling people.
Most incompatibility is due to the frequent absence of the true sense of physical well-being which people should possess. The frequent absence of a true sense of well-being is caused in most instances by the ingestion of bad food, priming the common foundation of disease to give rise to unsocial tendencies. Incompatibility is due principally to a sickened physical state disturbing the psychology.
Most incompatibility is due to physical reasons and can be explained by the general sensation of ill-being caused by the freshly activated common foundation of disease when acted on by bad food ingested.
A devoted wife will spend two or three hours in preparing complicated dishes which give rise to highly unpleasant bodily feelings either shortly after the meal, one or two hours later or that night. Restlessness, uneasiness, mild or sharp pains in most any part of the body may be complained of either shortly or hours after eating bad food. Feeling of depression, blues, unsatisfied longings, nervousness, even melancholia, are early effects felt soon after eating bad food. Belching, a sensation of slight or excessive nausea, gaseous eructations, excessive gas formation, passing of excess gas, are all symptoms resulting from eating bad food. The members of the family are ill at ease. The sleep is disturbed and restless, the person wakes up numerous times. The sleep is not as restful and pleasant as it should be. The person has dreams which are unpleasant and are remembered upon awakening. The ex-planation for disturbed sleep and other unpleasant effects, is simple. One or more ingredients of the meal had undergone decomposition before it reached the meal table ; or in effect contained the equivalent of very minute quantities of poison such as is present in mushrooms, raw green peas, lemons, coffee, tea or cocoa, etc. This means that there was some food poison in the meal. Of course, in most instances, these are only extremely mild and small amounts of poisons, but nevertheless, the harmful economic and unpleasant social effects are often tremendous. Now the question arises, what foods to serve in order to avoid this food poison and the various ill effects caused by bad foods? This has been answered in this chapter under General Diet.
There is a subconscious psychological element associated with this subject of the repeated administration of bad food, unwittingly by the wife to her family. Instinctively the fairly healthy individual will subconsciously sense a danger and develop and manifest a constant urge and desire to remain away from the home where such danger lurks.
As a whole, most contentment is dependent on a state of physical well-being and most happiness is dependent on contentment.